|The St. Regis Roof Ballroom last night at the American Cancer Society New York City's Spring Benefit. The balloons were sold at various prices (purple $1,000) to support the ACS' Hope Lodge which offers free accommodation to families traveling to New York for treatment. Harry Slatkin, the man on the right purchased 20 of the purples. 9:30 PM. Photo: JH.|
|Wednesday, May 25, 2011. A change in the weather: New Yorkers woke up yesterday morning to a very warm – warm like Summer day in New York.
Last night at the St. Regis Roof, the American Cancer Society New York City, held its “Celebration of Life Spring Benefit, honoring this writer and Perri Peltz, the television journalist and documentary filmmaker whose “The Education of Dee Dee Ricks” premiered earlier this month at the Tribeca Film Festival and will run on HBO this coming October.
I had replied: “honoree for what?
She answered: “For our Man of Achievement Award.”
I replied: “What’s the achievement?”
She laughed – Diana is easy to laugh which is part of her great charm – and I said yes.
Although I was serious with my question. Frankly I agreed because of her aforementioned qualities and friendship but the last question was honestly put.
Achievement Awards – often “Lifetime Achievement” Awards are popular at many benefit galas, and while some of them seem like a stretch (especially when the recipient is in his or her thirties), they are received with grace and humility at the ultimate flattery.
However, many recipients are also remarkable achievers in one way or another. I do not consider myself in that class for as I told the guests last night in my “acceptance” speech, finishing this Diary every night and getting it out is my idea of an achievement. I don’t put that lightly although I believe compared to many in the world I visit almost daily, it is not remarkable. Furthermore my partner in NYSD, Jeff Hirsch, who most readers know as JH, for his beautiful photographs, is really the achiever in this duo, putting together, editing, designing, laying out and putting us up on line every very early weekday morning.
All that considered, in thinking about “what” I’d say in my acceptance, I realized that I’ve been writing the New York Social Diary for 18 years – first in Quest magazine, briefly – three years – in Avenue magazine and since the turn of the century, in Quest. JH and I have been delivering the NYSD on line for the past eleven years. Facts that amaze me since the time has flown by so quickly, and been so packed with people, activities and ... Well ... Benefit galas. Adding them up I think I’ve attended about 1400 of them over that time.
Years ago when I lived in Los Angeles I had a friend who quit the film business after he’d made his pile of dough and decided to go on a voyage to India. When in Calcutta and learning of Mother Teresa’s hospices, he decided to knock on the door one day and volunteer to help.
For two weeks he worked in the kitchen washing the pots and pans after the meals were made – a far cry from the mogul’s office he occupied at one of the major studio in Hollywood. The implements he said, were primitive and not very efficient. He even suggested some that were more modern, but they weren’t interested. So he just continued his assignment many hours everyday, working in a place for the sick and the dying. It made a very deep impression on him.
|After he told me the story – back home in his lovely house in the canyons of Beverly Hills surerounded by beautiful gardens and all the conveniences of modern American life, I asked him “What” he had “learned” from his experience.
He told me that he learned that everyone who does anything to contribute to charitable causes was making a difference, whether they were giving money, holding teas, changing beds, caring for animals, educating the children, raising money for all of these activities and much much more -- they were making a difference in creating a better life and a better world for us all.
That sounds like a tall order when I see it in words, but my friend – who was in no way frivolous or careless in thought – believed it.
|That lesson of his has been my guide in this work called the New York Social Diary, and that’s what I told them last night in my little speech. And that’s what fired my curiosity beyond the surface of these many evenings that I’ve reported here. The mechanism of charity requires all types, all talents and all personalities. The reward is often only an ideal but when pursued with a dedication, commitment and passion that I have seen in so many people involved, the reward can be a Cure, a Hope, a Comfort and a Rescue, and a love and respect for Life.
I often think how if we could run our governments and our societies with this kind of energy, many of the problems now plaguing our civilization could be eliminated. I often think how the occasional realization of these ideals are proof that we’re better than we think we are.
|Diana Feldman greeting the crowd and introducing Paula Zahn as mistress of ceremonies.|
|Marvin Hamlisch and Gary Mauer. Mr. Hamlisch entertained us last night with a medley of his songs from "Chorus Line."|
|Back to last night. Perri Peltz was awarded the Humanitarian Award. I’ve known Perri for quite a few years although we see each other infrequently and don’t know each other well. She has a very kind and sunny manner. You know when you’re in her company that she’s one of those women who is smart and in pursuit of realizing ambitions. You may be familiar with her as a journalist on CNN, CNBC, and other media outlets. There’s no edge to her delivery. In fact it’s almost Pollyana-ish but with incisive intelligence. One of those people you’d describe as not having a mean bone in her body. I’m sure that’s accurate.
Last night she told us how after her career in television news she felt a need to get deeper into matters. At first she tried medical school. After a year of it, despite advancing her interests and knowledge, she decided that wasn’t the best road for her. Somewhere in there she got involved through the experience of her friend Dee Dee Ricks in making a documentary about Ricks’s battle with breast cancer and her resulting interest in addressing the business of being poor (Ricks was the opposite) and being confronted by the dread disease.
Perri ran a couple of clips from the film for us. One was an interview with Dr. Harold Freeman who runs the Ralph Lauren Center for Cancer Care and Prevention in Harlem. This brief and moving interview actualizes and affirms what I wrote about the process of charity, its people and what it achieves. It is so moving on so many levels that everyone in the St. Regis Roof ballroom last night was transfixed by Ms. Ricks and Dr. Freeman (both of whom were also present).
|The packed house in the St. Regis Roof ballroom.|
|I don’t Ms. Ricks, although I may have met her in my nighttime gala benefit travels. She’s been a very successful businesswoman here in New York and living right up there with many of her wealthiest friends. Her own bout with breast cancer turned out to be a seminal moment for her. She is a great woman, a kind and thoughtful woman. And brave. So is the good Dr. Freeman; a towering individual himself. You will see all this immediately when you see this powerful film – the work of the equally courageous, however modest, and kind Perri Peltz.
That moment made the evening for me, and as I said, it gave me a glimpse into the achievement we all share in the business of charity and philanthropy. It’s totally democratic and available to anyone.
Last night’s benefit co-chairs were Gigi and Harry Benson CBE, Diana and Richard Feldman, Charlotte Ford, Brenda and Howard Johnson, Margo Langenberg, Jean and Martin Shafiroff, and Barbara and Donald Tober. Vice-chairs were Joe Cohen, Evelyn and Leonard Lauder, Linda and Stephen Levy, Suzanne Mados, Hilary and Wilbur Ross, Eric Ruttenberg (Perri’s husband), and Lauren and John Veronis (Perri’s mother and stepfather).
|Harold Freeman MD and Dee Dee Ricks at Tribeca Talk After The Movie "The Education Of Dee Dee Ricks" during the 2011 Tribeca Film Festival.|
|Among the Benefit Committee: Cetie Nippert Ames, Lynn and Art Barbash, George Baker, Cornelia and Martin Bregman, Mario Buatta, Cricket and Richard Burns, Hilary and Joe Califano, Ralph Destino, Alexandra Lebenthal and Jay Diamond, Jackie Weld and Rod Drake, Francine LeFrak and Richard Friedberg, Barbara and Peter Georgescu, Marjorie and Ellery Gordon, Anne Grauso, Fernand Kellogg and Kirk Henckels, Michele and Larry Herbert, Jeff Hirsch, Rochelle and David Hirsh, Joy and Jonathan Ingram, Lyn and Steven Jacobson, Ann and Arnold Jurdem, Elizabeth Kabler, Mariana and George Kaufman, Stephanie Krieger, Karen and Richard LeFrak, Cynthia and Dan Lufkin, Tina Sloan and Stephen McPherson, Carol and Philip Mehler, Clara and Ernest Menaldino, Gillian and Sylvester Miniter, Nelson Peltz, Judith Price, Katharine Rayner, Elizabeth Stribling and Guy Robinson, Leba and Neil Sedaka, Jeanne and Herb Siegal, Liz Smith, Allison and Leonard Stern, Topsy Taylor.
Oh, Paula Zahn lent her talents and good cheer to emceeing the evening. At the opening she described her personal experience with cancer – four of her family members – father, mother, sister-in-law and sister had been afflicted. And I had the great good fortune to be introduced by my friend (and a committed philanthropist) Charlotte Ford; and Perri was introduced by her admiring friend, the editor and author Jon Meachem.
And there you have it. Most of it anyway.
|Arlene Dahl, Marc Rosen, and Judy Price.|
|Dr. Harold Freeman of the Ralph Lauren Cancer Care Center in Harlem, with Don and Kathy Distasio and Drs. Avi and Lynn Barbasch.|
|Bill Cunningham and Alexandra Lebenthal.|
|Sandra McConnell and Chris Obetz.||Stewart Lane and Bonnie Comley.|
|Cassandra Seidenfeld, Yaz Hernandez, Margo Langenberg, Barbara Tober, and Giosetta Capriati.|
|Richard and Diana Feldman with Anthony and Lisa Harpel.|
|Gillian and Sylvester Miniter.||Arnold and Ann Jurdem.|
|Paula Zahn with Sherri and Joseph Abruzzese.|
|Mario Buatta talking with Hilary Califano and Evelyn Lauder.|
|Peter Lyden, Jackie Weld Drake, and Gigi Benson.|
|Donald and Barbara Tober.||Margo Langenberg and Antonia Milonas.|
|Gigi Benson and Prince Dimitri of Yugoslavia.|
|Jay Diamond, Sara Ayres, Alexandra Lebenthal, and Charlie Ayres.|
|Somers Farkas, Paula Zahn, DPC, Muffie Potter Aston, Cynthia Lufkin, and Cece Cord.|
|Jean Shafiroff, Cassandra Seidenfeld, and Ann Rapp.|
|Danielle Rossi, JH, Charlie Scheips, Pax Quigley, and DPC.|
|Luis Valero.||DPC and Charlotte Ford.|
|Chris Wilson, Sassy Johnson, and Charlie Scheips.|
|Dahlia and Larry Leeds.|
|Liz Neumark and Rob Arango.|
|Lynn and Steve Jacobson.|
|Photographs by Ann Watt.||
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