Monday, December 17, 2012

The way the nation is feeling

Through a window. Photo: JH.
Monday, December 17, 2012. A grey, rainy Sunday, cold and damp. Appropriate weather for the way the nation was feeling, after the catastrophe in the school rooms in Newtown, Connecticut on Friday.

I had lunch on Friday at Swifty’s with Nina Griscom. I wouldn’t call it a working lunch but I always come away knowing more about something than I knew before we started. Nina is good company because her life is full of interest ( so there’s a lot of change to report.

I mention the lunch only because in retrospect it was a great way to start my weekend (which is basically Friday and Saturdays that I don’t have a deadline). So when we departed Swifty’s, I could say to myself, this was a nice day. Until I got home and learned the news.

The business of Guns and Gun Control returns to the fore. There are now hundreds of millions of handguns in private hands in America today. Would it even be humanly possible to confiscate them?

The boy’s mother had several guns, and she liked “shooting” with her children, teaching them how. The ultimate irony:  One child used one or more of them, to kill her and more than two dozen other people including 20 innocent little children who were first terrorized by this monster. For he was a monster, in the end.

The question arises: what if the boy had never been taught to use a gun? What if there were no guns in that woman’s house? The question cannot be answered.

Anger. I think to myself that I cannot imagine that anger that would have provoked the boy, the young man, who did what he did. It was easy to recognize his insanity. Otherwise, the question arises: why does the anger have to take victims?

Friday was a departure from senses that cannot be understood. This is an epidemic, not the first, not the fifth, not even the 25th. Killing, killing children; even children killing children. This is a new world; another world, and many of us have even grown used to it. It’s endemic in American society today and maybe elsewhere too. It’s in the video games, on the television shows and in the movies, jammed and rammed with violence, most often mindless and pedestrian to the point where people are used to it. It’s endemic in the way many people treat each other such as in the bullying among school children and young people.

Pass the popcorn please. Yes, we can outlaw guns. Can we also outlaws guns in movies, on TV, in the vid games?  Should we? Of course not; people have the right to want what they want when they want it, right? Too bad for all of us, is what it looks like. I'm reading Antony Beevor’s extraordinary “Second World War” right now. It’s the same thing. Murder; we call it War to avoid recognizing our truth. By “our,” I mean us human beings.

To change the subject and return to the calendar of the season: I’ve missed every holiday party I’ve been invited to so far this season. Too many conflicts.

I missed the big party which I heard was wonderful, last Thursday night at “21” where George Farias  and Anne Hearst and Jay McInerney played host to about 300 of their nearest and dearest. David Monn found a real sleigh for a Santa, had it taken apart, and then carried into the restaurant and reassembled to greet the guests.
Jay McInerney, Anne Hearst McInerney, and George Farias with Santa.
Amanda Hearst. Candace Bushnell and Patty Raynes. Martha Stewart.
Caroline Dean, Paul Hart, Dana Hammond.
Jennifer Creel, Allison Rockefeller, and Valesca Hermes. Cynthia and John Whitehead.
George Farias, Susan Stroman, and William Zeckendorf.
Morgan Entrekin, Ann Dexter-Jones, Taki Theodoracopulus, and Sharon Sondes.
I also missed Jackie Weld Drake’s big Casita Maria celebration over at Roberto Cavalli, which brought out a big crowd. And I even missed my great friend Beth DeWoody’s party last night which she hosted with her fiancé Firooz Zahedi, at her Gracie Square apartment. I also heard that guests learned that Firooz and Beth will marry the day after Christmas at the family compound in Palm Beach.
Yanna Avis, Adrienne Vittadini, and Jacqueline Weld Drake.
Barbara Hemmerle Gollust andn Dayssi Olarte de Kanavos. Dimity Giles de Milberg and Kirat Young.
Mark Gilbertson, Felicia Taylor, Susan Gutfreund, and Lee Robinson.
Fe Fendi, Carmen Lambari, and Paula Fendi. Maria Eugenia Haseltine and William Haseltine.

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